Yesterday I was reminded that our perception of ourselves is so often exactly opposite of reality or how other people see us. My husband took this video of me and posted it to fb. My first thought when I saw it was "Gah, my legs look so chunky. Why did he share that?" They have always been the body part I am critical of first. (I even debated for a long time about wether to share this.) And though I wish I could say I was so far beyond that because I realize how superficial it sounds, I still struggle with these thoughts sometimes. But before I could even get the words out of my mouth, my sweet friend @beccamitchell_fitness commented and said she was jealous of how ripped I was and how strong my hamstrings looked. Say what?! Here I am criticizing the very thing she points out as a strength.
I realize I do that in so many other areas of my life as well, and I doubt I'm alone. I'm listening to a great book about personalities and how aspects of ourselves that we see as flaws can actually be powerful and good when we are emotionally and spiritually healthy. I'm really working on changing my thoughts about myself because I believe if we are kinder to ourselves we will automatically be kinder to other people. So the next time you get caught up in negative thinking about your perceived weaknesses, remember that other people may very well see them as your greatest strengths. Be kind to yourself for a change and see where it takes you.