The surest sign that summer #travel season is upon us? The proliferation of Facebook posts from friends who are crowd-sourcing recommendations for their upcoming trip to Lisbon, Reykjavik, or insert-popular-destination here.
Of the many ways social media is used (and abused) in modern life, it’s a totally reasonable use case. Your friends have been places you haven’t—and perhaps they have a similar taste in activities or restaurants—so it’s worth asking them where to go. Plus, happiness researchers say that taking time to plan and look forward to a trip will increase the total enjoyment you get out of booking it.
But as a strategy for having the best experience on your upcoming adventure, it’s not always the ideal approach. If you’re going to do it, how you ask the question makes a big difference.