#relationshipsarehard

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I wish I could say it was better. It’s not. But I suppose it’s not that much worse either. She’s still struggling with the pain of living a life that doesn’t energize and impassion her. I’m still struggling with being a person who doesn’t energize and impassion her. What’s she looking for? What is out there in the world that she needs in order to feel heard, seen, and understood? Why isn’t the meaning that everyone of us seek in our lives, can’t be found in the life she has? She knows there are millions of women desperately seeking a life like the one she has. Yet it’s not doing it for her. Her therapist said “I don’t think I’ve met anyone who’s trying harder to throw away something really good.” She married me, but she’s no longer in to me. I get it. Kids and car payments, laundry and little league: they weigh down the excitement of a romantic love. 25 extra pounds and a thinning hair line don’t help either. I don’t want her to fake anything. But I also want to know that I’m loved... hell... liked even.

She says she’s lonely. I want to say “I’m right here!! How can you feel alone, when you’ve got me here?!” But I don’t. Because I know she knows that. She wants something more. Friendship? Validation? To be understood? Whatever it is, she can’t get it from me. That breaks my heart, but it also breaks my heart that I can’t help her find those things in a way that doesn’t break us. So I hunker down and hold on to the very few moments of tenderness that still exist between us: the morning good bye and the evening good night. An occasional shared bit of laughter on Netflix or an exchanged glance when one of the kids do something adorable. And I keep trying to be better, more interesting, more spontaneous. And I also keep hoping we’ll get there together. #relationships #relationshipsarehard #love #marriage #marriageishard #mentalhealth #authenticself #poetry

I somehow convinced myself that for a guy to be interested in me, one that’s supposedly “out of my league” something had to be wrong with him.
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So every hour between a message. Every day that passes without a face to face conversation. Every statement, action, and non-action is internalized and overthought.
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I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak. For the truth to come out. That out of the blue he’s going to yell, “SIKE!”
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I have a very wise and honest friend who told me not to do that. That there are SO MANY reasons for this man to be interested in me.
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I’m funny (borderline silly... okay cheesy, but the good melting kind on top of nachos), I’m witty, I’m creative and profound, I’m intelligent and geeky (which I’m so glad is cool now,) I’m giving and never like for anyone to be left out, I’m humble (except when it comes to my mad selfie skills or ability to judge good coffee 😉), I’m imperfectly human, and most importantly I’m beautiful. —> I encourage you to make your own “I’m List.” It’s empowering. I know it’s hard because you deserve to see and read what makes you AMAZING!
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A guy I know said to me a girl who is a 5 or 6, no matter what other qualities she has, will never be more than maybe a 7. But a guy can. I call B.S. again! His words hurt because here I am realizing my supposed friend is talking about me. Fast forward to where I realized how he’s the one missing out, I’m off the scale. I’m tired of being judged by numbers.
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So you...YOU, can stop worrying if this guy is interested in you for real, or if he’s going to sike you out. What ever your self-doubts are. Just BE IN THE MOMENT!
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And if it doesn’t work out, seriously, he wasn’t worth it, NOT YOU! NOT ME! *
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#lovemeforme #siker #selflovefirst #jsydsjourney #lesstobemore #weightlossjourney #datingishard #relationshipsarehard #onlyhuman #datingadvice #youreworthit #healthierversionofyou

You thought I would eventually leave you so you did it first. #Selfsabotage: the process of not thinking you are worth something and affecting your ability to have, experience and receive.
#takingabreak #breakup #heartbroken #relationshipsarehard #why #betterman #myperson

“Actions speak louder than words”🔻

I believe ❗️Actions don’t just speak they SCREAM louder than words ever could ❗️


None of us are perfect. We all make mistakes. We say things we don’t mean. But in my opinion it’s the little things people do that truly show who they are / how much they care. Sometimes people that you think don’t care at all are the ones who make a huge difference in your life by the little things they do. ➖


Pay attention ❗️❗️
don’t get caught up in the “they said” and start picking up on the things people do.
You’ll quickly find out who really cares. ⚠️
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#selflove #selfcare #selfawareness #energyvampires #truth #payattention #actionsspeaklouderthanwords #quotestoliveby #innerstrength #insta #instagood #raybans #carselfie #seatbelt #lol #relationshipsarehard #friendshipsarerelationships #summer #brunette #darkhairdontcare

“Hey want to start a podcast with me?”
“Sure”

BOOM 💥 🤜🤛 •
First episode available now!!!



#loveisontheair #podcast #launchparty #podcastlaunchparty #datingsucks #relationshipsarehard

This one had been so strong for so long and then someone came along and found that one loose thread. One strong tug and it all came undone. Where’s the other one? #relationshipsareoverrated #lonelyshoes #abandonedshoes #vancouverisawesome #sadstories #relationshipsarehard #abandoned #mymissingpiece #webrokeup #whatever #giveup

Getting out of a relationship and forcing yourself to re-discover who you are before finding someone new is incredibly difficult. Allow yourself the time to grieve one relationship before lowering your standards just to avoid having to use the word, “single.” #relationshipsarehard #divorce #singlegirl #empowerment #findyourself #breakupquotes

Currently my favorite quote on marriage. In the past month we’ve had a conflict or two where I wish this would have been pasted everywhere in my field of view. Surrendering to the idea that I value connectedness over correctness is a struggle but so worth it. And luckily I have a partner who is willing to enter into that same tension with me.
Also if you haven’t checked out “Where Shall We Begin with Esther Perel” on the ol podcast app. Do it yesterday. Your marriage will thank you for it. .
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#estherperel #marriagequotes #oversimplified #buttrue #truth #toledoweddingofficiant #weddingceremony #relationshipsarehard #relationshipsareworthit #together #keepgrowing #toledoohio #toledowedding #weddingofficiant #toledoweddingplanner

"Love is not easy but you need to fight for what is yours. Never give up on your loved ones! The devil fights against your plans but never give up!" @ClaireAyuk

Claire shares her story of why forgiveness was key to creating a successful marriage after she chose to reconcile with her husband who had an affair. To read her amazing story, click on the link in our bio.

"I still love my husband and I have forgiven him. Unconditional love for your loved one is crucial. Always forgive, it is the key to reconciling." @ClaireAyuk

Claire shares her story of why forgiveness was key to creating a successful marriage after she chose to reconcile with her husband who had an affair. To read her amazing story, click on the link in our bio.

release all ‘expectations’ of people.
expectations of your partner.
expectations of yourself.
expectations of your family.
of your friends.
of co-workers.
of strangers.

more than any other time in history it seems we expect people to be SO many roles, all the time.

and the expectations sneak in, under the radar and show up as disappointment, frustration and resentment.

when we release the overly-high expectations, we all grant each other permission to explore life freely.
messing up a bit, because we’re playing all out.
unafraid to ‘fail’ people.

We release all expectation today...how about you?
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Much love, The Freemans

"The year of 2015 was the beginning of a disaster. I noticed so much change in our marriage. My husband became so arrogant, which wasn’t the man I knew him to be. I noticed there was something going on but I couldn't pinpoint exactly what it was. Eventually I came to realise my husband was having an affair." @ClaireAyuk

Claire shares her story of why forgiveness was key to creating a successful marriage after she chose to reconcile with her husband who had an affair. To read her amazing story, click on the link in our bio.

"After my husband's affair, things got worse because there were mixed feelings of love and hate. My husband tried to apologize but I wasn’t ready to forgive. Eventually we stopped talking to each other." @ClaireAyuk

Claire shares her story of why forgiveness was key to creating a successful marriage after she chose to reconcile with her husband who had an affair. To read her amazing story, click on the link in our bio.

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