GRIEVING DOESN'T MEAN YOU DON'T TRUST GOD
If we hand out truths to hurting people without the permission to grieve, wrestle and weep, we are missing the mark. Today, my friend gave me permission to feel the losses. She reminded me that the tears which fill my eyes when I see a pregnant woman or the sorrow that grips my heart when I see a newborn, are not evidence of my lack of rejoicing with others. I can rejoice with my sisters who still have, while being deeply grieved over what was taken from me.
Often times, especially in theologically sound circles, we leave that second part out. We tend to offer up quick-fix theological answers and even rebukes like, "God is sovereign." or "You need to trust him." These truths are necessary and vital, but they must be attached to empathy and grace when applied to the lives of those who are hurting.
Grieving does not mean one doesn't trust God. Grief is a natural response to the pain of this sin saturated world we live in. Praise the Lord, Jesus has overcome sin, death and this world! Feel the pain, grieve the losses, fix your eyes on truth through the tears, and rest on the promise that one day, every tear will be wiped away. Oh, what a glorious day that will be!