"You have 'whore eyes.'" To this day I'm still not sure what about my eyes makes them 'whore eyes'. This phrase was just one of the many events that took place growing up with psychological abuse. No, my dad didn't leave me when I was little, no my mom wasn't a drug addict, we had problems, sure but none that you would think justified me to fall in love with abusers. Some people think in order for it to be abuse it has to be physical. This is not the case at all. Bruises will fade but the emotional scars from them, and words, and the threats and the lies, etc... last sooo much longer! I have a knack for finding the lost and forgotten boys, the troubled boys, the boys who 'need' me. My mom calls this the Cinderella Syndrome. I say 'boys' because none of them treated me the way a man should treat a woman. They were boys. On average it takes a woman 7 times to leave her abuser. 7! Not one, 7! We believe they will get help, they will stop, they love us. The cold truth is they won't get help, they won't stop and they don't truly love us. Even writing this now years later it's hard for me to come to terms with the fact that they didn't truly love me. Not the way you are supposed to be loved. I was not taken care of, I was put down, manipulated, lied to, yelled at, swung at, just plain hurt over and over again. I'm not writing this as a pity me story. I am writing this because I am one of the lucky ones. I was able to get out, and when I would find myself in the same situation with a different guy, I was able to leave again. I got help, not him, me. I got counseling and support and eventually, love, REAL love. It is so important to educate our daughters to see the warning signs and know their worth. I am raising a daughter and it is one of the scariest thoughts to think of what I went through happening to her. BUT I am also raising my two sons, who WILL be taught how to treat a lady and be respectful.