On my page I don’t want discussions of weight loss.
I don’t talk about it nor do I welcome it to the discussion.
Not just because I survived an eating disorder.
Not just because my body has been vilified my entire life.
Not just because weight loss has been proven to long term not be effective.
Not just because diet culture is pervasive, harmful, damaging and corrupt.
Not just because my body at a doctors office is treated like a disease.
Not just because I hate healthy or unhealthy or wellness or lifestyle or whatever bullshit term is weaponised against me.
People say stop it’s unfair why can’t we exist in a body positive community that uplifts & supports weight loss. Well I ask you this.
Why can’t we exist in a body positive community where the respect of larger bodies is permanent. When we tell you pounds lost and goals reached hurts us & not because of your own autonomy but because weight loss is celebrated everywhere & we just want one community, one day, one moment of rest from it.
It’s not even the community. I can’t even begin to tell the anger, hate & ugliness that has been exposed when I simply say ‘my page, MY PAGE, MY OWN PAGE is not for weight loss rhetoric or discussion. My needs, eating disorder survivors needs & fat peoples needs for safe spaces is not as important as someone coming onto my page pissed off that they can’t celebrate a weight loss or “journey” that intrinsically is used to fuck up bodies and hurt people like me everyday. Weight loss is not inherently negative - I HAVE NEVER SAID THAT. I have said the obsessive continual positive light we see weight loss for in our society & the pressure we all feel to be on that path is pervasive, dangerous & diet culture wrapped up in poison. See it’s not individualistic autonomous for whatever reason “losing weight weight loss” I have a disdain for. It’s not the individuals losing weight. It’s the fact that even on my own account I am not allowed to set guidelines & rules for what I see as my own personal fucking safety. Because people’s overriding want & need to be celebrated, applauded & supported in weight loss is more important than my recovery, my safety, my mind & my body. Continued⬇️