connection can be the best medicine #tbt #trans #nonbinary •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
social isolation can happen to anyone anywhere. We often think of social isolation being related to geographic location-- but this is not the only determining factor. Despite the privilege, access to queer folks, and accepting political/cultural climate surrounding me at the time, I felt socially isolated in the initial stages of questioning and understanding my gender. I thought no one else felt like I did. I didn't see reflections of my experience anywhere and felt trapped by the stereotypes and communities others associated with me (which were often based on my sex assigned at birth). This led me to withdraw socially. I didn't know how to integrate this new understanding of myself into social situations and friendships-- particularly in public. I had a hard time giving myself permission to prioritize my needs over FOMO. •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
While I spent many nights at home alone because of my anxiety and gender dysphoria, I never felt disconnected. I was learning to (re)build relationships on my terms. Instead of trying to be at all the parties, I made plans with individuals and family members who made me feel good. I curated my instagram to include tons of trans folks and allies so I would never have to feel alone (even if I was physically). Making connections with people and seeing reflections of trans and nonbinary experiences on instagram has been just as life changing as aspects of my medical alignment. Find connection in whatever way works for you given what you need and where you are. It really can be the best medicine and intervention.