The Openness Spectrum
Where has this chart been? I know that it’s addressing the slut shaming issues and such, but I think that it’s useful for people entering into the world of non-monogamy. I honestly think that I fall somewhere between usually monogamous and somewhat sexually open. I don’t think that I’m as completely open as I thought I was at the beginning of my journey. I mean, I think I actually would be perfectly happy with with some form of polyfidelity at this point. A sexually closed dynamic with three or four people could be a thing for me, but only if it were emotionally open and we had the ability to negotiate something new if needed.
I used to think that for me it was complete freedom or nothing, but truth be told, I like some firm commitments and stable relationships, something that we can use to build upon together.
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