We spend a lot of time in life not knowing.
There are a lot of things that we’re comfortable not knowing. Not knowing a stranger’s name. Not knowing our credit card number or a friend’s address. Not knowing the capital of Spain. We’re comfortable with these things because we know there are answers. Even if we have to get on our phones for few minutes to find them, we know these things are all facts that actually exist.
But there are lots of other things that we really want to know, like if our decision is going to be the right one, or if a job is going to work out, or if we’re about to be fired.
And while we think it would be nice to know these things, to know the future, I’m here to tell you it’s really not the case. Even if we could know these things, we’re actually better off not knowing them.
When we think we should know, we get stressed out when we don’t know things. But when we see that not knowing is our natural state, we can actually open into that, into a state of curious detachment, of childlike wonder. What’s going to happen next? Will it be a pleasant surprise, a learning opportunity, or both?
When you know you don’t know, you look at the world differently. I am a big fan of football radio. About ninety percent of it is pure speculation on who’s going to win or lose and what that might mean. The news is no different, the economy, brexit, the race for the next Prime Minister. We don’t know what’s going to happen with any of this stuff, it’s possible just to admit that. Instead of trying to keep up with all the pundits are saying, we can spend our time doing things we enjoy.
Of course we don’t want to know when bad stuff is going to happen. But what about the surprise call from a friend? What about the windfall you didn’t know was coming?
A lot of the joy in life comes from surprise, too. And knowing exactly what’s coming would take all of that away.
When we understand that we can’t control what happens, we can devote more of our energy to how we respond and what we learn. And we can open to a new sense of ease in the process. #tuesdaythinker #lifecoachforall #positives #achiever #wealthadvisor #innerself #believeinyourvision #planitout #change