"You attracted it because you desired it".
"Everything is just your projection. Everything is in your mind".
"Clear up your vibration & you'll stop attracting bad things to yourself".
"If you have doubts, fears, resistance, pain, anger, then you must be in your ego & totally unenlightened". "The past is an illusion. Let it go right now!"
I'm so tired of all this New Age spiritual bullshit. I'm tired of ANY spirituality that doesn't fully honor our messy, unresolvable, first-hand, real-time, embodied human experience.
That doesn't bow deeply to the struggle of our raw & tender hearts. That guilt-trips us for our imperfections & shames our limitations.
No, it's not always your projection.
Yes, sometimes other people really ARE abusive & need to be stopped. ⠀
No, everything isn't always "in your mind".
Yes, your body matters. Your feelings too. ⠀
No, your doubts & fears are not 'wrong' or 'bad' or 'unevolved'.
No, you do not 'attract' abuse through a faulty 'vibrational frequency'.
No, you do not deserve to be violated in any way, in the name of Truth, in the name of God, in the name of Love, or IN ANY OTHER NAME. ⠀
Yes, your boundaries deserve to be respected, your 'yes' AND your 'no' too.
No, it's not okay for spiritual teachers to abuse people "for their own good" - to shock them into awakening, to enlighten them, to help them drop their "ego".
Teachers that use abuse as a tool are simply abusers, not teachers. ⠀
I reject any spirituality that dismisses our tender, vulnerable, fragile humanity.
I reject any spirituality that shames us for our precious human thoughts & feelings.
I reject any spirituality that begins any sentence with "If you were enlightened..."
I reject any spirituality that divides self from no self, divine from human, sacred from profane, absolute from relative, heaven from earth, duality from nonduality, material from spiritual. (cont. in comments)