Hey everyone, Thomas here! I wanted to talk a little bit about the biggest struggle for Molly and I in our relationship: fitness and exercise. As you might have noticed, fitness is not only a huge part of my and Molly's lives, it's the reason we met. We only began talking because I saw the Spartan race sticker on her water bottle in the gym. This picture was taken after one of the literal mountaintop monuments from early in our relationship, when together we both crushed a Spartan race. However, our fitness abilities have gone different directions since then.
Not long after than, Molly's illnesses took a turn for the worst, resulting in her losing most of the fitness she had gained over the past few years. However, I still work out every day (twice most days), and I'm doing more obstacle racing than ever before. I'm actually pretty good at it. (Molly here - he’s being humble, he’s actually freaking amazing at OCR.) This has, at times, been really hard for Molly and I. I constantly feel guilty about working out, racing, and feeling good about what I've accomplished. I know it's hard for Molly to see me succeed while she's on the sidelines, and I try to be conscious of that. Usually the night before I race and the day of are pretty awkward for us. We don't really know what to talk about. We've tried not talking about the race, but then it's like ignoring the problem. But talking about it is really hard too. I know how badly Molly wants to be out there with me, even if that isn't a reality right now.
We always support each other through everything, and this is no different, but it is a little more of a challenge. It's really hard to have something that used to define us as a couple no longer be a couple activity. But above all, I know Molly supports me and is proud of me, just like I support her and am proud of her.