I know most of us love a bit of vulgarity now again but if you don't personally, please scroll.
I say c**t, I fart and talk about poos and wees and I've always had these dynamics with my female friends, and most of my male friends. But CERTAIN men have their weird boundaries and blur the lines between joking about sex, defecation, menstruation etc. and it's up to us to figure out where their hypocritical line is. Often there's vulgarity going on and a man will feign politeness by saying "cmon guys, there's girls here" or something along those lines, and I've jumped to vulgarities defence justifying "oh I'm used to it" or "I have brothers" or "I work with men" or "I'm one of the boys" practically begging to not be excluded, is another bullshit patriarchal micro-aggression we rarely talk about. Often accompanied by the female's: "I'm not like normal women" internalised reinforcement, only further drives the ancient stereotype that feminine, hetero or self respecting women can't swear, talk about bodily functions or be crude. Well newsflash #softboi, we deal with periods (often from an early age), hear locker room talk about gross sex stuff at an early age (they think we're too dumb to know, but I knew exactly what my creepy older brother's friend meant when he told me at age 8, my legs 'went all the way up' 🙄🤢AND I was flattered at the time. smh) and like the article states, we are actually the ones to perform the coveted 'job of blow' (OBVIOUSLY in the hetero dynamic in this context). I'll never forget one of my best male mates from high school who LOVED my sense of humour until he got butthurt the day I colourfully expressed how badly I needed to go to do a number 2, (when he was the most disgusting boy I knew) saying loudly in front of quite a few people "Kate that is going too far and I'm absolutely offended and disgusted" shaking his head with a look of horror which was so humiliating and embarrassing for me I hung my head in shame.
I couldn't fathom his preciousness, especially after the things I heard come out of his mouth. And then I realised, it was only because there was a girl in the room he wanted to stick it to. K8 (the disgusting one)