PSA: IF YOU THINK SOMEONE IS PREGNANT AND YOU WANT TO CONGRATULATE THEM, DON'T.
Unless I tell you personally that I'm expecting, I don't want to hear anything about my body from you.
For the fifth time in the past year, someone thought I was pregnant.
The first was : " good luck with your kid"
The second was: "good luck with the baby"
The third was my neighbour : " are you having a baby?" "No, just a little fat" "oh ok"
The fourth was : " are you pregnant "..."no...."
" Oh, someone thought that about me too a long time ago, it's a compliment really" "ok...." And the fifth one was today : " you're having a boy" "oh, am I? "
None of these examples include comments from family when I went back home to Sri Lanka, Or other brown people that saw me after a while. So on reality there's dozens more comments that various people have made about my body, weight, old body etc etc.
I'm not really quick on my feet when it comes to responding to things, so I never really said anything. But I wish I could have come up with something on the spot, I wish I could have said something to make them realize that first of all, they are wrong and second, that they hurt me. I know what my body looks like, I know I have a belly, I know it's very round, I know I bloat easily, I know I've gained weight, I know I used to be thinner, I KNOW. So please, don't comment on my body. It's none of your concern, not your place, nothing you need to worry about, because people with body issues know about it better than anyone else, especially some stranger on a god damn plane.
Usually these people are older women in the 50s or older. So if you know an older lady or anyone in your life that might be stupid enough to do this, please pass this message on to them.
It makes me feel aweful about myself, just when I thought I reached a point in my life that I could accept that I will NEVER have the body I did when I was 16. Just when I felt good about myself, despite all the perceived flaws. When I could hear my fiancé tell me I'm beautiful and believe it for real.
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