📚How to Stay Together When You Are Different From Each Other
🔖The strongest relationships are the ones in which both partners can be themselves. Intending to change the other person or dramatically changing yourself to fit someone else’s ideals dooms couples to failure.
When two people have beliefs or habits that differ too much, it creates friction.
Having two people from completely different worlds can be problematic, but even couples who have a lot in common need to make trade offs sometimes. It’s not as though two partners need to be exactly alike, after all. Any healthy relationship involves compromise. 📌Unresolved small differences can cause huge problems. Our partners are not our clones. If you stay with anyone long enough, you’re going to have disagreements. 📌Some are unwilling to give anything up.Some people think that if you have to compromise, then the couple is a poor match. 📌Some sacrifice way more than they should.Compromising on core values and beliefs is another recipe for frustration and exhaustion.
📌Both partners should give something up.
📌Compromise only when it makes both happier and better.(by Anna Chui)