I now find compliments more annoying than complimentary. 💭long critical thinking post📚
I used to be conflicted as to why positive comments on your body are bad, why would it be bad to say "that shirt is amazing" and I never saw the problem until recently. It's that as women we are taught that our value is in how we look. @sorryaboutlastnight podcast brought up that we don’t teach men to compliment other men (which is more complex in itself) on how they look or what they wear. The point though is it has been ingrained from a young age that physical appearance is most important for a woman. The problem with complimenting just on physicality is that you are in a subtle or large way ingraining these ideas. It made me realize this whole other level to self love that I have been blind to and it sunk in why it is so difficult to love yourself and fully recognize your value when so many implicit things are working against you. Physical compliments are a disservice to who I am. I realized why I loathe being cute earlier this week. What the hell, it sounds so juvenile? When someone says "you're/ she’s cute" it instantly makes me realize they don't see me worth. That I am resilient, strong, I have an incredible work ethic , intellignt, compassionate, creative and beautiful as a human being and cute is what you say. It is almost infuriating when I am so much more that that. As I have come to recognize that myself you really begin to notice when others don't. Their opinions shouldn't affect how much you love yourself and how you feel, that is having unconditional love for who you are. I have been thinking a lot about this topic the last few weeks and discussing my struggles with my body, feminism, critical thinking and society in depth with @terry_gayle . These conversations feed my soul ❤️ I have found a new level of awareness I need to work on and I recognize I am in a society that is changing. I need to be compassionate for others while making a stance. It is an opportunity for discussion, a new layer to how as individuals experience the world and the roles that we play. Let’s start talking.