Zaeli Kane met her husband, Joe Spurr, when they were both 21. They’ve been nonmonogamous for most of the time they’ve been together. When they got married, they agreed to only one real limit on their openness: That they wouldn’t cohabitate with someone else. Since then, #nonmonogamy has been a defining feature of their life. 2 years ago, Zaeli met Blake Wilson. He started spending more time with her during the day, with Joe’s consent; Blake had a flexible schedule, which meant he could hold Zaeli’s hand through the long days that a young mother spends with a toddler. Eventually, Joe started to feel, toward Blake, the warmth you feel toward a brother-in-law who turns out to be more than tolerable. And then, Zaeli and Joe invited Blake to move in with them. While on assignment for @nytmag, the photographer @hollyandres took this portrait of Joe and Zaeli with Blake, center. For Zaeli, nonmonogamy was an antidote to the loneliness of how people live. “People think of this as a home-wrecking,” she told @nytmag. “But this can be a nice family structure.” Susan Dominus, the @nytmag writer who spent a year reporting on #openmarriage, wondered how Joe felt about Zaeli’s connection with Blake. “It’s a person I love, loving someone,” he said. “How is love bad?” Visit the link in our profile to read more.