How others act is one thing, but how YOU act (or not act) back can determine what happens next. You can bend towards them and fall for their spite, you can make them angrier by spitting back, you can stay strong and simply let their words flow past you, or you can treat them in kindness and respect (as much as you can) and hope their passion will die down.
Unfortunately, some people seem to be alright with or even enjoy the violence of fighting, and they need to take into account the thousands- millions- EVEN BILLIONS of other people who wish nothing of the sorts. How we deal with such people, I am not sure yet; there are way too many different people with different reasons behind each action for us to give a general solution for. But we CANNOT react to them with more anger or violence, or else we are just contradicting ourselves. Besides, if fighting is what pleases them, we cannot give them the fuel to their flame.
I believe everyone deserves to be loved. As sappy and cliche as this may sound, ALL PEOPLE need that one glimpse of light in their life- especially those who live in deep, dark waters. Now I know not all people are respectful or kind, and that makes it hard to be loving back. But think of it less as necessarily “loving” them and more as “not driving hate” into them. No one should be thrown deeper into the mess they’re already in. Their own choices will decide if they take the ladder out, of if they dig a bigger pit. It should be our job to give them the option of being free from misery by treating them better than those who may have treated them poorly before.
I know there may be many of you who think all of this effort will be for nothing. Well with that attitude, yes. But if you could at least spread a little kindness, or nothing at all if you cannot express anything nice, it could make even a slight difference in one’s life. If you don’t see it, that doesn’t mean it was nothing; that person may need more than one act of kindness to lift them up. Even if it was nothing at all, at least you didn’t cause more trouble. Better nothing more than anything worse.