Lengthy, but you won’t regret reading it. So good. 👊🏼🎤
Calmness is a superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personal keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace. You have to learn how to not be controlled by other people's negativity. You can't walk around with a button that can easily be pushed. You can't be swayed left or right ever second by what others outside of you are saying and doing. You have to learn how to be in control of your inner emotions and gain inner stability. Be too great for negativity and nonsense.
You might not realize this, but you choose how you want to feel. You choose to be sad, happy, excited, up, and or down. However, when people don't understand this, they become reactors. Reactors, tie their inner emotions to things, people, situations, and or circumstances. They wait till "this" happens to be happy. They can't be excited unless "that" happens. Have you noticed, that when you're just happy for no reason, people ask "what are you so happy about?" It's like we just can't be in that state, without having a reason. And for most people, if there is no reason to be happy, they are either sad or depressed waiting for something on the outside to shift their inner state.
Start choosing your inner state:
First step is deciding how you want to feel. If you don't decide, you'll be waiting for something on the outside to decide for you. When you make a clear cut decision, nothing will alter that state, if you keep your vision on the choice you made. You have the most effect on your reality when you feel good. Feeling good aligns you to the things you desire. The environment might look the same; but the mind looking at it has changed. Know that your inner reality, controls your outer reality.
I know you might not have been taught this, but you're meant to feel good for no reason. You're meant to be happy for no reason. You're meant to smile for no reason. Let your self go and be free. You no longer have to wait to get these feelings, you longer have to expect others to give it to you to get these feelings. We have to stop tying ourselves down when we're meant to fly.