So you think you’re not a perfectionist?
Girlfriend, there is a huge difference between having high standards for yourself versus being a perfectionist. I can’t tell you how many women come in thinking they’re not riding the perfection train only to find out they’re at the engine!
Here’s the difference between perfectionism and high standards:
Perfectionism is black or white, pass or fail, does NOT allow room for mistakes or growth and creates an environment where anything less than perfect is a failure (ewww). The perfectionist sets standards SO high for themselves, they can’t possibly meet them. This crew tends to feel more anxious, un-worthy, overly cautious, and constantly questions their abilities. They may even avoid LIVING their lives and trying new things for fear of making a mistake. This is not an empowered place to be
High standards allow for mistakes, create space for learning, involve good work ethic and show strength of character. There is room for growth and ta-da! CONFIDENCE. The tribe with high standards tend to feel happier, connected to themselves, and they push themselves to try new things. They also practice self-compassion and, you guessed it, forgiveness. And do you know what else? They empower the sh*t out of themselves because they trust in their ability to get up from a fall, dust themselves off and carry on.
Which one are you?