C H O I C E S
i've tried hard not to buy into the concept of the 'terrible twos' and rather, have been trying to see it as the 'transformational twos.' we're almost at the 2 yr milestone & already i can see big shifts within him. he's become a lot more vocal, busier in his movement, emotions are coming in waves, he's more demanding of our attention & is starting to push back. equally, he has become a lot more affectionate running to hug us every time we enter a room as though we've been apart for years, spontaneously kissing me on the lips, bringing me flowers & blades of grass & hugging me so tight that i can feel his wee body shake. it's a wonderful & trying time for us both & i am choosing to pay attention to the momental change erupting within him rather believing he is just a bratty toddler.
there is so much more going on.
sure! it's challenging when he screams in your face, wants to be picked up all the time, cries for what feels like no reason, grabs a handful of freshly cut coriander from the kitchen bench where i am cooking & throws it the air...sure. those moments are tough. but sometimes, i am able to stop my mind from going where it wants to go & connect with him. i soften my body, look him right in the eyes & gently ask him to stop screaming & tell me (with the few words he has) what's going on. almost every time, he will meet me there. as though he sees me as an equal. someone who is meeting his call of discomfort with love rather than more anger. i completely understand boundaries so of course there are moments for time out however i am finding that this new approach is working.
he even lowers his head, whispers mama and tells me in his few words, what's going on as though it's a secret.
one that he's allowing me in on.
as though he feels comfortable telling me his most vulnerable thoughts...
and as his mother, i want to create a space where he ALWAYS knows that he share his most vulnerable thoughts & feelings.
it's a powerful feeling when you find ways to connect through love, even when it feels like there is no other choice, he reminds me that there always is 🔮