Taking baby steps towards talking about issues like #whiteprivilege that feel so huge to tackle, I am sharing another very real and intimately challenging topic. (More about the former topic in soon to be explored posts.) Authenticity on social media.
I know how to be authentic. It’s something I value highly. Right alongside creativity and kindness. But when I go to write on social media, it’s like my mind goes blank and I forget how to speak the way I do with a friend. I watch others (and yes, compare myself) how they share with authentic grace with seemingly little effort which also feels inauthentic. So then I end up just sharing a picture with very few words and call it good.
How do we speak about the things close to our hearts, the challenges we are going through, the big emotions we are processing HERE on social media? It’s baffling to me...and also intriguing.
So, to challenge myself (because my life isn’t challenging enough working full time with three young kids🙃) I am posting here about my real challenge with mess...and of course the authenticity thing is rolled in too.
You can see from this picture that my kitchen counter is covered in papers and dishes. I didn’t have a chance to also show you the living room rug covered in crumbs and cat hair or the overflowing baskets of laundry. (My phone died while taking this photo, and while it was charging, I cleaned up). I broke down with the kids on Saturday as I explained to them why I don’t play with them. “I can’t relax in this mess! Even while I’m sitting here on the floor, my mom eyes just see all the cat hair and chip crumbs all over the rug! Am I the only one who sees these?!?” Daniel (my 9 year old) bends down to look and says “ oh yeah, I see it now!” I told them how I feel like a bad mom when the house is dirty and also when I’m not playing with them...and how these thoughts make me feel completely 🥜. Then we laughed, and I felt better... And I realized how sometimes talking about the mess really can help.
I also feel that this little post has helped me tap into my authenticity. That wasn’t as difficult as I thought it would be. Thanks, @lunarfossil for the advice and nudge!