🖐🏽 Yep. 5 of 'em.
We have 5 basic needs.
If you've read the posts I've put up previously that look similar to this one then you'll know all about Choice Theory and Quality World Pictures.
You may even remember that EVERY behaviour is motivated by our Quality World Pictures. (scroll through my account to find the QWP post if you've forgotten what it is)
Here is a deeper truth... Beneath each Quality World Picture is a NEED we feel will be filled when we achieve that QWP.
Dr. Glasser suggests we have 5 basic needs:
Love, Belong & Connectedness (all one category)
The importance of each need varies person to person. I have a large Freedom and LBC needs. Medium Survival, Fun and Power needs.
What's the point?
There is personal power in knowing your needs. Knowing them allows you to meet them AND know when you are deficient in any of the needs. A hint that you may be deficient in one or more needs, in this moment, is your thoughts. Do you wake up thinking about escaping to a silent retreat immediately? Or going away on a solo snow boarding trip? etc.
This is our needs talking to us. It may be Freedom saying 'Hey, I need your attention!!'
It may be Fun saying "Hey, Captain Serious, let's get out of here and go have a good time!'
It could be power saying 'Hey, I feel the need to be awesome, let's go shred some pow duuuuude' (...🤷🏽♀️sorry for that, *insert cool snowboard lingo here - should have phoned my cool snowboarding brother in law before writing this 🙄🤦🏽♀️whatever.) You get the point, our needs are talking to us all the time through our thoughts. The potential for keeping ourselves balanced and happily meeting all our needs increases like 💯percent IF WE ACTUALLY KNOW:
1)THAT WE HAVE NEEDS
2)WHAT THEY ARE
3)WHICH ONES ARE MOST IMPORTANT TO US INDIVIDUALLY
So give it a think. Which ones feel most important to you. I'll start exploring through each of the individual needs 5 posts from now. - can't mess with the sweet insta grid I've got going on 😜
If you know your needs size ratio share it in the comments. Let's get real. ...also if you have sweet snowboarding lingo please also share that 😬 😘✌