Love is a choice and sometimes not an easy one – to love someone not because of what you expect back from them or what you get from them, but rather because you “choose to” - full stop. No matter the past, no matter what’s under the bridge, no matter the hurt - you still choose to love .... unconditionally……. If someone were to ask you, “Why do you love your wife?” or “Why do you love your husband?” – what would you say?
Most men would mention their wife’s beauty, her sense of humor, her kindness, her inner strength. They might talk about her cooking, her knack for decorating, or what a good mother she is.
Women would probably say something about their husband’s good looks or his personality. They’d commend him for his steadiness and consistent character. They’d say they love him because he’s always there for them. He’s generous. He’s helpful.
But what if over the course of years, your wife or husband stopped being every one of those things. Would you still love them? If your reasons for loving your spouse all have something to do with his or her qualities – and then those same qualities suddeinly or gradually disappear – your basis for love is over.
The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.