#Repost from my original post on Aug 11 Trust instincts! 🔮💫
Liking someone and not feeling liked back. Contorting yourself into who you think they want you to be. Hoping, praying and wishing that person would just see how amazing you would be together and choose you. Wanting that person to be available, willing and ready to commit.
Not feeling “chosen” feels awful.
Why continue choosing into situations where we are not seen, valued and met?
You ultimately teach people how to treat you by what bread crumbs you are willing to accept. When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time. Nothing will change that until they are ready.
Sometimes you just have to let them the FUCK go or they will continue to string you along because you are SAFE.
Being alone and secure is a lot better than settling for a guy that’s bread-crumbing you.
I’ve done this to men forever as I protect myself by not allowing myself to become vulnerable to emotions that lead me to become unproductive in my career, so I know exactly what I’m talking about. However there comes a time where a dude has knocked even ME a professional off my game.
Breadcrumbers will send you sporadic messages, slide into your DMs here and there, or throw you a like on Instagram just frequently enough so you don’t lose interest, but not too much so the relationship actually moves forward. It’s a twisted, methodical practice that takes serious effort to perfect! Breadcrumbers have a sense for when you’re close to moving on, so they seize the opportunity to leave you a trail of breadcrumbs — or brief flirtations — so you don’t forget about them quite yet.
“These ambiguous crumbs are enough to remind you that the person is around but never get to the point of whether they actually want a relationship.” Enough with the games! Just let a person know. That’s what my 5th podcast is about. So link in profile to listen! Not everyone you date is your Mate!
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