Thanks for the conviction 😩😚 Needed this...
repost from @lupussistas
Have you learned how to ask for help yet? Like truly learned. Are you getting the support you need, and if not is it because you haven’t asked for it? I was raised to be independent. Before my lupus diagnosis I had the mindset that if I didn’t do it, it wouldn’t get done. And even still… 8 years into dealing with lupus in my life and I still need to practice asking for help – from my husband, friends, co-workers, bosses, whoever.
I know you’ve seen that meme floating around about you’ll find out who’s really in your corner when you’re sick or broke. It’s true! I’ve seen the good and the bad side of this. But I celebrate the good! By letting my guard down and letting people in I’ve gotten encouragement and support from the most unexpected places. Just yesterday a friend messaged me and offered to take me places if I was too tired to drive! God is amazing!
Listen, sometimes you’re not supported because you don’t open your mouth. You’re out in the streets, going grocery shopping, putting away groceries, cleaning and doing this and that with the kids and everything else, while your support system is in the corner (in your corner) waiting in the wings for you to OPEN YOUR MOUTH and ASK. I know, I know… why don’t they just volunteer? They see you struggling to get things done. Well, everybody doesn’t have the same perception as you. Some people will volunteer others need to be asked, because they see you struggling, nevertheless you’re getting it done so you must be Ok.
No. We have to shut this line of thinking down. Imagine how freeing it would be to be able to take a break and let your support system help. Take the superwoman/superman cape off sometimes and enjoy the support that God can provide through your relationships.
Now I know some of you might not have that spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, family support that others have. I hope you have a community through church or other organizations that can come in every once and a while and let you get the rest and care that you need. Taking a break doesn’t make you a lazy mom, dad, person, period. It makes you responsible.