Three years ago today my mom past away. .
This picture of her and I on an airplane when I was six is so relevant because many pivotal events in my life oddly have occurred on airplanes...learning of her passing was one of them. .
You can imagine how hard losing a parent is, but nobody tells you exactly how hard it is OR how long it takes to get over it and what it can do to you... for me it has been three years to recover. .
The best parents encourage their kids to dream and believe and instill a belief that their child can achieve their dreams, even when you’re almost 50. That’s what my mom did up until the time she passed. .
My first and biggest fan, she introduced me to the arts, culture and encouraged my writing and talent long before and after I’d become an actual author. She drilled into my sister and I an incredible level of optimism, creativity and self confidence. She helped us to dream and to believe we could achieve those dreams... even if we were kids from #Lubbock, Texas... and achieve we did. .
But life, professional & personal choices took me away from those dreams. Over the years I lost my confidence in my ability and talent, but she never stopped believing, wanting me to shine, be happy and do what I was meant to. Up until the last week of her life she was there reminding, pushing, believing in me and reminding me of what is possible. . “Go back to writing, write more books, write the screenplay, share your voice, you have so much talent; people love your work, get out your head, get out of your own way and just go write.”
It’s taken me a long time to get my courage back and believe. I’ve had to go a long way and deep down to find it. Ultimately, it took a mother’s belief (though she’s long gone) and my perspective as a parent pushing my own kids to live their dreams that helped me find it again. .
Lenny Kravitz wrote a song after his mom’s passing, “Thinking of you” It says it better than I could say myself. The chorus goes :
“Thinking of you, and all of the things you wanted me to be... and I’m trying.” @LennyKravitz
Judy Richardson... I’m trying! Love you .
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