As I do this painting and think through more of the criticisms and self-berating Ones often feel, I am stricken by how much that’s stinted the risks I’m willing to make on this painting. Right now there’s so many things about it I would change and take away, but that gets to one of the features about healthy Ones. —
Healthy Ones can never fully disregard the loud stacks of self criticism they hear, but they can find ways to distance themselves from it or attend to other environments that don’t require them to perfect. They also can work on their reaction to their criticism, do they always regard it as truth? Or can they recognize it as a thought, just like any other. It’s a big deal for a One to be self compassionate, so when you hear them being gentle or forgiving to themselves or others, affirm it because it can be a rare feeling. —
For me I’m setting down my paint brush a couple days to listen to where this painting wants to go next, and to let go of what I want it to be. Because that loosening control allows me to trust regardless of how this painting turns out, I’ll still be enough. And so will Ones.