#ChildrenofDivorce - THE SOCIAL STIGMAS
1. You will be wayward.
Life pretty much turned upside down. There are a whole lot of emotions to go through. Time is needed for transition. You may end up living with either parent or none at all. Well, obviously all those emotions will make you seem wayward. But honey, feel it all, go through them and emerge stronger. Oh yes, working through it all with the help of a school counsellor (if you have access to one) truly helps.
2. You will drop out of school.
If you are a teenager of newly divorced parents, it will not be easy. As stated in point 1, there is a lot to go through. No matter what the age, there is a lot to go through. I struggled academically. Some do, some don’t. It depends on each individual. But school, I still loved and wanted to stay in for it was the only constant in my life.
3. You will not make it in life.
I’m guessing the society is referring to having a job, or owning a home, or getting married? Your job interview isn’t going to discriminate you for being a divorced child, neither will the home application process, as for getting married, that’s in point four.
Remember, your past does not dictate your future. Leave the baggage behind, reflect from the experience and emerge a stronger/resilient person.
4. You will also end up divorced.
I don’t have enough marriage years on this. But these are my advice: before getting married, try to (1) leave the baggage behind, (2) reflect from the experience and (3) emerge a stronger/resilient person. Yes they were in point 3. So work on yourself, work on healing.
Also, choose a spouse according to what we have been advised by our religion and our Prophet SAW.
I made my spouse very aware that I am a divorced child and that there are certain situations that comes with being married to me (this really depends on the unique circumstance of each divorced child). More in comments 👇