Jim Lees adopted me quite a few years after he married my adopted mum. A man from Lancashire, England. My mum from Southend on Sea, England. I spent so many years not understanding him, blaming him, he was a strict man. A man who demanded respect and had no issue pulling his belt if he felt he needed to. When he passed away 15 years ago, he left me a book he had written. Still my heart was hard, and i never opened it. Till today. As i read his memoirs i am in awe, a man who travelled around the world. Who before he met my mum had lived in Africa, Montreal, Vancouver, Toronto, Europe, Australia, and NZ... and worked in the Artic. Dad served his country in the Army.... maybe more I am still reading. I am saddened my heart was not open enough to listen to his stories back then, to get to know him for who he was deep inside, but I am grateful he left me his stories and that I am now in a place to listen to hear them, to appreciate them.
Holding a grudge, being bitter, has robbed me of many amazing years with my parents who have now passed. Forgiveness a gift i wish i had gifted alot earlier. I know they both did the best they could with what they knew back then. When i read my dads story i understand why he was the way he was. He was truly a remarkable man, as was my mum. I am also grateful i am able to focus on what was beautiful about them, because the beauty far out weighs the bad things.
Love you mum & dad. Thank you for adopting me, thank you for loving me, thank you for for always being the best parents you knew how to be. I am where I am because of the foundations you laid and I am forever grateful.
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