I had a massive revelation this morning. Stick with me. I promise I have a point.
Last night we were riding to a family Christmas party with my mom. Somehow we got into a conversation with the girls about what they want to do in the future. For years, Hannah has said that she wants to be a surgeon. She's been exposed to more doctors than most kids bc of all the appointments she's been to for Neely. The moment that impacted her the most was our first visit to a pediatric Cranio-facial practice. Lots of kids in the waiting room had cleft palates and facial deformities, and when we left, I remember her 7-year old self saying that she wanted to be the kind of doctor to help those kids. She mentioned it again last night, and my mom encouraged it. Hannah is FULLY capable of achieving this, and I have no doubt she will be hugely successful in her life.
And then Neely said that she wanted to be a vet. She loves animals and has always had a close bond with then.Keep in mind Neely has cerebral palsy and intellectual disability. Let me break that down for you...her IQ is in the "impaired range/below normal intelligence." Years ago, she would have been labeled "retarded." And she wants to be a DOCTOR of veterinary medicine. She's talked about this for years, and I've never doubted or discouraged her dreams. Almost instantly, my mom suggested that maybe a more realistic option would be for her to be a vet tech; I'm assuming she meant a job more realistic and befitting considering Neely's disabilities. And to be honest, this pissed me off. Like a rage developed in my chest. I immediately retorted, "You can be a vet, Neely,"and left it at that.
This is no slam against mom. I love and respect her, but as I was listening to episode 198 of the @themfceoproject this morning, I understood WHY I got so angry. Neely's goals are totally unrealistic considering her mental abilities. So unrealistic that her grandmother doubts her-a woman who would die for my child. And that's EXACTLY what's wrong with this world. We discourage greatness, unrealistic goals, outlandish dreams. We encourage mediocrity,conventional, realistic. I refuse to conform. Dr. Neely will prove the world wrong!