October 15th was "International Miscarriage and Stillborn Awareness Day". Did you know that? I didn't, because I was never aware. Now it is a part of my story... Our miscarriage wasn't widely known. Except for a few close friends and family members, we were mostly quiet about it. But slowly I've gained the strength to talk about it and share my story with others, in hopes I can help another struggling woman just like me find peace, healing and hope.🙏🏻💕 ----------------------------------- We were planning our move to Taiwan, and felt we needed to add to our little family before we made that giant leap across the world. It was the last month we could have possibly gotten pregnant before we left. I had almost given up hope. But then, the little blue line appeared.
And my heart stopped.
We made plans to meet with our families over Thanksgiving. It was the perfect chance to share our wonderful news and hug and smile and share happiness.
Instead, 3 days before Thanksgiving, I went in for a D&C to remove the baby that had stopped growing and was now posing a medical risk to me.
Again, my heart stopped.
I had played out that weekend a thousand times in my head. The things I would say I was 'Thankful for' as we took turn around the dinner table.... all of that now gone.
Instead, I hid through the pain. I had to reapply my makeup 3 times that morning as I got ready to meet our families. I tried to smile on the outside, but was crumbling on the inside. Taking this family pic that day was almost too much.
Although my list of things I was thankful for that year had changed (drastically), it still hurt. And sometimes still does.
There were no memories of the child, no smells, no favorite items of clothing or favorite foods. It was a little life that came for seconds and touched no one but us.
I have 3 beautiful babies that bless my life every day. And I've also had 3 miscarriages. Each one heartbreaking. 💔
So how do you as a friend or family member come into the situation and not make it more painful?
Here's a short list.... 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻