Recently I was up for a TV hosting job and was told that I needed to be more feminine. Picture if you will a guy being up for a travel/adventure job and being told he’s too hard and needs to be softer. This is not the first time in my industry that I have heard this but this stung more because it came from women. So I did some research to my burning question, 'How do I become more feminine?' and found these answers. "Go on a “pants detox” and commit to only wearing dresses and skirts, don’t shy away from makeup, but don’t wear too much makeup, smile often, don’t be loud and rowdy, don’t cut your hair short, be flirtatious, place fresh flowers in your home, give yourself presents, think about your posture often…” One site actually said, “if you could kill your snakes, what is the purpose of a man in your own life?” A man’s purpose in life is to kill MY snakes? I’m not saying I want to kill snakes here, but shouldn’t I be given the choice to? And shouldn’t the man in my life like that I want to kill a few snakes myself? .
Am I the traditional definition of femininity? I don’t know...but I also don’t care. I am confident, I am also sweet and forgiving, I’m nurturing and kind and most important I love myself and I'm comfortable in my own skin. To me femininity isn’t just an outward appearance it’s appreciating who you really are. It’s about looking inside to understand your gifts and talents. There is nothing shameful about being a woman and embracing your feminine side but it doesn’t have to mean dresses and a shy demeanor. And it certainly doesn’t have to mean being weak, soft, submitting or changing who you are. .
And to the person who wrote, “The fouler your mouth, the fouler you will look to everyone around you. Ladies do not cuss, at least not out loud.” FUCK OFF. Love this feminine little mouthy blonde. .
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