Awhile back, someone posted a comment on my instagram essentially calling me a whore. I had posted a photo doing an inversion on a stand up paddle board wearing a bikini, as I naturally wear when out in the middle of the ocean. The anonymous person said it was only fitting of my character that my legs should be spread wide open. Why do we do that to each other? Spread hate as we hide behind our computer screens? Why do we shame others? Why do we criticize what people choose to wear or not wear? Why do we gossip? And cut people down?
I have certainly been guilty of being petty and putting people down in the past - if we're honest, I think we all have. The hard questions above are ones I've had to ask my former self. And the truth that I have come up with is that it's never about the other person. We criticize the qualities in others which we most dislike in ourselves. Judgment never comes from love, it comes from lack. That person whose bikini post strikes a nerve with you - do some digging about where that judgement comes from. Do you feel comfortable in your own skin?
I know I haven't always felt confident in my body. We are our own worst critics and when it hurts too much to continue tearing ourselves apart, we tear down others. Stop that shit. Love your body. Love your whole being. Teach empathy, not judgement. And if you find yourself on the receiving end of nasty comments, remind yourself it's not about you. It never was. ❤️