“Things don’t happen TO us, they happen FOR us”
When we started trying to get pregnant with our second child we were faced with problem after problem. First we couldn’t get pregnant at all. Then I was told I needed to gain weight and change my lifestyle if I wanted that to happen. Once I did those things, we suffered from miscarriage, after miscarriage, after miscarriage after miscarriage… I was constantly questioning WHY was this happening to us? WHY was this happening to me? WHY? WHY? WHY? It wasn’t until afterward that I realized exactly why those things were happening to me. Scratch that, FOR me. During those 3 years that we struggled with infertility and pregnancy lost, I learned SO much about my body. I learned how to nurture my body with enough calories. I learned that exercising isn’t always about working as hard as I can for as long as I can and trying to burn as many calories as I can. I learned that healthy hormones are more important than a number on a scale. I learned that I can love myself even if I weight 10 or more pounds heavier. I learned to listen to my body, to know my body, and to cherish my body more than I ever had done before. Now when I look back at that time of my life when I kept wondering why such horrible things kept happening to me, I know that they happened for me. While those things were horrible, while it was a very tough time in my life, I’m SO very grateful to have gotten that opportunity to learn about me! Bad, sad, frustrating, disappointing, annoying things happen.
The next time they happen to you maybe step back and instead of thinking why it’s happening to you, think why it’s happening FOR you. Maybe there’s a lesson to be learned, maybe not but even just your outlook at the time can completely change how you handle the situation :-)