Two things I have learned about validation lately:
1️⃣ It is a basic human need. No need to feel ashamed about wanting some.
2️⃣ It is MY job to validate myself. And honestly, that is good news. I can’t control others, so needing it from them just leaves me needy. And really, none of them know who I am or what I do as well as I do, so they’re not as good as giving it anyway.
Understanding these two truths has been SOOOO good for a pleaser like me. I have lived for validation from others far too much in my life. Validating my myself is definitely something I’m still learning how to do, but I can feel myself getting better at it. And I can feel my joy increasing.
Next time you work through something challenging, do something that scares you, or heck, next time you just get out of bed willing to face your life, go ahead and high five yourself. 🙌 Tell yourself you are amazing, awesome, and doing good things. Don’t wait for someone else to do your job. You’re the best one for it. •
(And by the way, thanks for all the validation the other day about my marathon dream. I had already given it to myself, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t like the little extra. 😊)