I thought that I was mostly going to be ambivalent about this memoir written by Jessica Valenti, until an odd thing happened while I was in the middle of reading it. The first half focusses on the authors childhood and her emerging sexuality in her teens, and to be honest, I found a lot of what she writes confusing. She portrays herself as someone who wanted to be noticed and recognized as attractive and sexually alluring, and often did things specifically to illicit attention from boys. Yet, she seems genuinely surprised that she got the attention she was seeking, and was often willing to perform sexual acts, and yet claims along the way that it all wasn't what she really wanted to be doing-- that somehow the culture had trained her to 'take care' of the boys, and later men, that came into her life-- despite whatever her true desires were, which I don't think she ever really describes. It would have been great to hear the ways in which the culture trained her in this regard. Maybe that's what she was talking about when she describes all the myriad ways men endeavored to show her their penis? I could hardly believe it when she says she'd see like 2 to 4 cocks on the subway in NYC per year. I'm 37, and I probably haven't seen that many, counting time spent in the locker room. In fact, I think I saw my very first exposed in public dick just a few days ago when I was driving down I-84 in my semi for work, and I pulled up alongside a guy beating his meat cruising right along at 60mph. My first reaction was WTF--hilarious! I had to get video. I got it on video! But he caught me and slid his dick back into sweatpants. Then my second, and third reactions were *phew* at least there's somebody more depraved then me, followed by, yeah, I've got a nicer dick, too. I feel strange about those three things being my totally honest male reaction to this moment. Then, bc of reading this book, being right in the middle of it, I started to consider all the dicks Jessica claims she had seen, and how she had become inured to it, almost to the point that she just expected to see a penis that she didn't want to see, and I started to think that that would be pretty fucked up, actually.