People have told me that I'm mysterious and hard to read. And there's something true about that, which can be probably extended to most INTJs: you'll never know what's really going on inside of our heads. We don't like to share it or make it evident, because we have a whole world inside there, which is too complex to share, and is only ours. But with regards to love and affection, I don't think it's hard at all to see if we care or we don't. On the contrary, in that respect INTJs are pretty transparent and "what you see is what you get". We don't believe in diplomacy, and even less in hypocrisy, so, if we don't like you, it will show. We won't even reply your calls or texts. We will ignore you so hard that we will make you doubt your own existence! In fact, for me, for example, it is hard to even remember the names of people I've been dealing with for a whole year or more, if they aren't important to me. It has happened to me to receive Facebook requests from people who say they have been my friends or classmates in the past and I have no idea who they are. I just don't remember them! Because I was not paying attention to them. I know this is bad, and I have to work on my Fe to improve this, but unfortunately it happens often. Therefore, if an INTJ knows who you are, replies to you and shows some degree of interest in you, that's a good indicator that you are amongst the few people they care about.
Moreover, if you are in the privileged circle of people who truly matters to an INTJ, you'll find them constantly and even obsessively thinking about you. Trying to find solutions to your problems, relating whatever they learn or perceive in the outside world to what they think could be important, useful or interesting for you. You are a part of their intuitive network of thoughts. They’ll say things such as "I read this article on the Internet and it reminded me of what you said about…." Or" I've been thinking about what you commented the other day and I came up with an idea that could probably help…" It's not difficult to see if this is happening or not with you. #introvertquestionsandanswers #INTJ #intjlove #intjrelationships #introvertrelationship #mbti