Complete transparency and honesty is hard.
It requires a lot of confidence in what you are saying and doing. It requires you to be ok with admitting you messed up or aren't equipped to handle something. It means that for better or worse, everyone you interact with will know exactly where they stand.
It takes courage to live like that. It will require you to have the hard conversations and to say things the way they need to be said. There will be no sugar coating it or softening the blow. .
It's not easy at first, but once you get used to it and it becomes a habit, life becomes so much easier and the world becomes so much more clear. People see you for who you truly are. True friends stick around and embrace the change. Fake friends don't. Your circle becomes more tight knit. They start acting with the same honesty and transparency. .
It begins to have a ripple effect and everyone around you starts to behave in the same ways. The good people stick and the flakes fall off.
Then something magical happens. People start to gravitate towards you because at our core, we crave honesty. We crave real and true interactions. We want to know exactly where we stand and what the other person is thinking.
To top it all off, the new people that are gravitating towards you are going to be good and honest people too. They will generally believe in the same things as you, but even if they don't, they have to respect you. .
Transparency and honesty earns respect. Don't be afraid of the growing pains associated with it. It will suck at first, but isn't it worth it?