‘You don’t belong in here’. That is what an elderly gentlemen said to me after looking at me from head to toe, and staring at me straight in my eyes. ‘You don’t belong in here’
I immediately responded with…
‘Actually, I DO belong in here.’
Let me give you some context… I was standing JUST inside the Ogden LDS Temple. This is an area where ANYONE can stand. Visitors of all shapes and sizes can come inside and wait in that area. Granted… I am a member of the LDS church and hold a temple recommend, so NOT ONLY could I stand there… but I could go inside… JUST like he can. :) It took me by such surprise that I thought for sure he meant the fact that I was holding a camera and thought I would take photos inside. I really really hope that was the reason because if it was truly because I had a fur coat on with bright pink hair… then shame on him. I felt small, insignificant, and guilty. Not only did that comment smack me to the floor, it affected me WAY more than I thought it would. I couldn’t shake it. The words ‘You don’t belong… you don’t belong’ Rang in my head all weekend.
I posted about this experience on my Insta stories and I had SO much love poured out to me. I even had some fellow vivid hair friends tell me of similar experiences that they’ve had. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for the sweet words. Now... it honestly made me stop and think. I have NEVER felt like I wasn’t allowed to just BE… me. I wasn’t accepted, and someone went out of their way to tell me their mind.
Now… to quote Martin Luther King Jr.
‘We may all have come on different ships, but we’re in the same world now.’ You may have been raised in the 50’s but it’s 20freaking18 and there are WOMEN with PINK HAIR allllll over the place!
#timesup #metoo #mlkjr #pinkhairdontcare
Side note: My daughter took this photo of me with a lamp as my light source. 😊 I’m training her in the ways!