Early relational experiences are encoded in our neural circuitry in the first 18 months of life. They are stored as #implicit memory, inaccessible by means of conscious awareness, forming the templates through which we engage the relational world. These organizing principles surge in our intimate relationships – w/ lovers, friends, children – as well as with the #alchemical ‘other’ inside us, by way of previously disavowed emotions, feelings & somatic information of all kinds.
Our expectations in relationship – the reliability of others, our worthiness of being loved, what we can count on, fears around being vulnerable – structured in a fragile nervous system that is longing for safety & connection. The neural pathways are tender, open, and responsive, as we seek attuned #resonance w/ those around us. We want to feel felt, have our experience held and mirrored & for the space to explore unstructured states of being.
While this encoding is deeply embedded, it can be rewired. While it may feel so entrenched, it is not as solid as it appears. Even if your early environment was one of consistent empathic failure, developmental trauma, and insecure attachment, it is never too late. The wild realities of #neuroplasticity & the courage of the human heart is unstoppable & an erupting force of creativity and reorganization.
Through new relational experiences – with a friend; or with a star, a deer, a tree, a sunset, or w/ the moon, it is revealed that love is the basis of all neural #circuitry, the substance forming the neurons & their synapses, lighting up your cells in a moment of warmth, presence & kindness.
As long as there is breath coming, you can update the narrative. You can make new meaning of your life, a new commitment to the miracle of the here & now and learn to flood your #experience w/ presence, warmth & acceptance. Slowly you can embed your circuitry with the new pathway of holding awareness.
No matter what is happening in your life, you can start right now. In this moment. There is only ever this moment. The opportunity for reorganization is always here and wired within you. Don’t give up. Love will never give up on you.