If I ever have kids....I am going to be CAREFUL what words and phrases I use to describe them. I know that shit sticks.
Does anyone else remember a line that was said to them as a kid, that’s haunted them ever since?? I have several, but the main one about my body i remember was from a ballet instructor, who I’m sure thought nothing of it, saying the way I was shaped, my body was like a giraffe’s 🦒🦒🦒 Kinda funny now but devaststing when you’re 12 and hella self conscious about your lanky, stick legs that are too long and bony hips.
I carried that phrase with me for YEARS, feeling crazy self conscious and hating it every time someone said how “lucky” I was to be skinny. 🙅🏼♀️ it never felt lucky.
I can’t remember NOT being self conscious about my body or my “natural” skinniness (which soon after became more extreme, and less natural.) Skinny shaming bs is real and it sucks. As recently as grad school I’ve had people pick on me and try to make me feel guilty for eating salads when I was “alteady naturally a stick.” Here to say, a stick, a twig, a giraffe...telling me i need to start eating— None of it’s ever been remotely flattering, and i don’t know what makes it okay to say those things, or comment on any kid’s or adult’s weight. Period.
Feeling extra proud of these giraffe-y muscles and strong legs that I’m always working SO hard to build.
Don’t assume it comes easy and be careful with your words—just a reminder 💚🦒💚🦒