If you choose to use a friend, make sure you designate a time to regularly check in with her. Also, set some guidelines to keep your meeting positive and helpful. Using an informal agenda not only provides you with structure, it also ensures your ad hoc coach can actually help you. Avoid complaining by changing your gripe into a question you'll ask your job search buddy. Asking for help can initially be difficult, but, for the person you tap to be your support, it can be extremely gratifying.