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As I recall the final days and moments leading up to the last with Will, I am overwhelmed with a mix of emotions... I remember July 19th 2009, a day we spent at Young's dairy with family, (cousins meeting for the very first time). Laughter, love and lots of pictures.πŸ™ŒπŸ» Priceless. β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’β€’
I chose this song {Homesick} to print in Will's memorial program because it perfectly portrayed how I was feeling... I think a part of me will always be 'Homesick', in my opinion, anyone who knows Christ is probably a little Homesick, especially in this quickly deteriorating world. Thank God that this world is only our temporary home.! It doesn't take a tragedy to develop that yearning for Heaven. Though this song has a sadness to it, it also has Hope intertwined. That doesn't mean I don't have heart wrenching days, I'm not excluded from pain and I don't want to be, my humanity is my best offering to all of you.
Clinging to this truth today as I remember my sweet boy and that fun-filled day....... 🎢In Christ there are no good-bye's and in Christ there is no end.. So i hold on to Jesus with all that I have to see you again..🎢
Its a perfect illustration to this grief journey. bittersweet. emotional. Homesick. Hopeβ€’filled. temporary. πŸ’•πŸ™Œ {I shared this video last year too, but remade it to be longer now that IG plays longer videos!} #homesick #mamagrief #grievewithHope #grievingparent #iWILLseeyouagain @sfuderer πŸ’“

Ground is FINALLY thawed to place.... β€πŸ˜πŸ’‹πŸ‘ΌπŸΌ #GrievingParent #Memorial #infantlossawareness #IAmOneInFour

Everyday is a battle ground but I survived. Echuuuse me... Heerrrrrooooo... Yaaaaaaassssss.
#motherofanangel #Joansmum #stillamum
#grievingmum #grievingparent

I've never been more nervous in my entire life. I have officially launched a kickstarter campaign that will allow us to publish Ellie and Elsie's story. If we can hit our goal in 45 days then we can go for it. I know that no matter what happens, their story will eventually be nestled into the pages of a book. Their story is one I want to tell for one reason only: to comfort and encourage those hurting from loss. If it does that for one person, then my desire in sharing these words will be fulfilled. You can find the link to the kickstarted in my profile. If you feel led to give or share, we are ever grateful. πŸ™

Download you copy a of The Grievers Manifesto. Put your name on it customize it to make it your own. We didn't ask to be part of this group of people who grieve the loss of a loved one. However this is the life that we have been given. We must learn to live this new life that we have been given even if we don't like it. To gain clarity in your life. Be part of this community make new friends of people that understand you.
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How to flourish after loss (2)

When your child dies, it's as if they disappeared into thin air. It sure takes a lot of effort to feel them because we are such physical beings and what we can't touch or see, we sometimes don't believe. Try to include them in your daily life. I think it is very important to mention the loved ones name daily. As a family we say Ollies name every time we pray, we talk about him often and we tell our children stories about him. Our other children know their older brother. Poppy even prays that Ollie will visit her!
1-Saying your loved ones name will help to bring them closer
2-Help them seem like a part of the family, because they still are.
3-By saying their name it allows their spirit to engulf your body and be a part of you
4-and also it will help their memory stay alive in your life!

I believe when someone dies, they are truly more alive than ever before, no pain, no sorrow and no heartache. We will all one day die and continue on our journey into eternity and beyond!

Ollie Kai Hebb, you are alive, you are thriving and you are present in our daily life! We love you. β€οΈπŸ’›πŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œ

Every retreat gets its own unique experience. During this last one we added acupuncture as an option and Robyn generously donated her expertise to everyone. Thank you Robyn!

June is Sands awareness month. An amazing charity who help grieving familys after the loss of aa baby day in & day out.
Did you know 15 babies a day die in the uk? 😒 15 too many πŸ’” πŸ’™LiamπŸ’™ #sandsawarenessmonth #15babiesaday #babyloss #babylossawareness #grievingparent #mummyofanangel


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Is it possible grief can bring you to better places in life than where you were before loss?

Grief can be crippling, it can make EVERYTHING hard to do. So, if all you can do is crawl, be good to yourself and keep going at the rate you can. What does crawling look like for you?

Even with all you've gone through, can you believe you were created for feeling good NOT for living depressed, defeated, guilty, etc? Talk to me, is this hard to embrace?

She gives of her time, her talents, and her resources to broaden our 'ohana of supporters in Portland. After hosting two fundraisers in her home, Becka Carter is now leading the charge in creating a fun and high class evening at the MAC in Portland. We appreciate you Becka!

It's official! Another group of parents will be coming to Kaua'i December 4-11 to participate in our 5th retreat. SO excited for them. If you want to help make this a reality for one of 130+ parents still on the waiting list you can donate here: https://heidilow.lpages.co/ohana-oasis-recurring-donations/

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What are you afraid of? To get over it, you need to go through it.

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The Hanalei Canoe Club and its members consistently come through for 'Ohana Oasis in so many ways.

Honoring your loved one is a key to living your life with joy and purpose. Carrying guilt for the past in your present isn't a constructive way to do this. Are you subconsciously choosing to hold on to the guilt as a way of paying a debt you think you owe? Ready to shed the guilt, get on a complimentary one-one call with me.

Your world feels like it's all came crumbling down around you. This is how it feels when you lose someone dear to you. Now what? Does life even really need to go on? This lack of motivation and desire to embrace life is understandable and normal. And there is way to rediscovering drive, hope and building an even more full life than you thought possible. When you give yourself the space, patience, and permission to feel ALL the feelings and take small baby steps towards something bigger than yourself you will wake up one day realizing you're full of joy and gratitude that you ARE living. Ready to take a baby step? Schedule a complimentary call with me at: https://heidilow.youcanbook.me/

Top Recent Read: Learning to Love Yourself, by Gay Hendricks PhD
Another good read by Hendricks. As I devoured this book I realized he put into eloquent words so many of the concepts I've applied and urge others to apply in their road to healing. Hendricks also introduced new (to me) strategies and truths to the necessity of and how to loving yourself. To find all my Recent Reads and blog go to: https://heidilow06.wixsite.com/heidilow/top10

When the storm is swirling around you, the thunder rattles the windows and the rain dumps down it's easy to forget the sun is still behind the clouds. Grief, sadness, and pain can feel the same way. And yet, there is still joy behind those clouds. When you can find within yourself the gratitude, the peace, and the ability to honor your loved one the clouds begin to recede. Click here for a 10 week blueprint of strategies to find that peace and way to honor your loved one. https://heidilow06.wixsite.com/blueprint

It doesn't feel fair. It isn't fair. You lost someone you love much too soon. It's easy to skate on the edge of bitterness because of the unfairness. There's an opportunity to see and feel this loss in a different way. Feel the grief, the pain, the sadness, the outrage, AND the gratitude. When you can allow gratitude for what you do have...including the time and relationship you've lost things in your life begin to shift and light starts streaming in. Ready to get regular encouragement and support in this journey through grief and joy? Follow my blog at: https://heidilow06.wixsite.com/heidilow

When the storm is swirling around you, the thunder rattles the windows and the rain dumps down it's easy to forget that the sun is still around behind the clouds. The grief, sadness and pain can feel the same way. And yet, there is still joy behind their clouds. When you can find the gratitude, the peace and ability to honor your loved one within yourself the clouds begin to recede. Click here for a 10 week series of strategies to find that peace and way to honor your loved one. http://ow.ly/7hA230dy6i

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