J U D G E M E NT 👇🏼 Judging someone does not define who they are, it defines who you are. .
Despite our best efforts, we all judge others. It might be over small things, like a colleague who took too long of a lunch break, or it might be bigger issues such as a person who behaves selfishly and hurts our feelings. .
Consider this story:
Imagine you are walking through the woods and you see a small dog. It looks cute and friendly. You approach and move to pet the dog. Suddenly it snarls and tries to bite you. The dog no longer seems cute and you feel fear and possibly anger. Then, as the wind blows, the leaves on the ground are carried away and you see the dog has one of its legs caught in a trap. Now, you feel compassion for the dog. You know it became aggressive because it is in pain and is suffering.
What can we learn from this story? How can we be less judgemental? .
➕Be mindful – Try to catch yourself before you speak. You can’t get your words back. Pause. See if you can understand where the person may be coming from.
➕Look for basic goodness – This takes practice, as our minds naturally scan for the negative, but if we try, we can almost always find something good in a person or situation.
➕Look at your own behaviour – Remember that when we judge someone, we point one finger at them but we have three fingers pointing back at us.
➕Give the benefit of the doubt – No one wakes up in the morning and says “I think I’ll try to be a jerk today”. Most of us are doing the best we can with the resources we have.
➕Feel good about YOU – If you feel good about who you are and the work you do, you won’t be interested in judging anyone else.