It's a beautiful thing when we share stories and give everyone goosebumps from our own adventures and experiences. Listening to your mates travel escapades, or your grandpa and grandma tell corny romo courting tales. Always makes us smile and want to hear more.
But when it comes to stories of hurt, pain or embarrassment we are encouraged not to tell. Not to ask so we don't embarrass others and to mind our own business. Why is that? Are we ashamed of something that's happened to us, even if it's not our fault.... and if we tell our friends it's nothing to be ashamed of then why do we whisper or wait till we are at home to speak?
This #metoo campaign has really got me thinking about my past and all the men that groped me, grabbed my boobs or butt without asking me. Pushed me against a wall and kissed me when i didn't want it, Called me a slut for not wanting to dance with him, told me what sexual things he wanted to do to me when i said no to a drink like i would enjoy it like an animal. Told me not to attend meetings at work because of the way i was dressed, suggesting i was too sexual and it would be distracting. I was a female and didn't know how to mix with the 'big boys' so i would never get any higher in the company....."maybe you should just stick to what your good at" and then laugh with the other two males in my face. Stood in front of me in a board room stared at my face, licked his lips and grabbed his nuts over and over again. Put his hand on my thigh and when i politely pushed it away he grabs harder and says you love it. Then i have to make up some excuse that makes my saying no seem justafiable. .
Teach your young boys to respect their young female friends. If you are an adult male and have done the above then ask a female in your life for advice...maybe you have no idea you are doing this and are passing this behavivour on to others. #metoo is about how it has happened to women but also about men having a think about what they might have done...#youtoo
#actions #education #futureyouth #longterm #women #men