"My earliest memory of feeling stupid was in the 5th grade.
My entire class laughed at me for not knowing who the first president of the United States was.
Now, at the age of 38, I still feel the sting of not being smart enough. I have allowed this feeling to be a catalyst for holding me back for a long time, from a lot of things. *I am ready to give that up.* When we tell ourselves something for long enough, we begin to believe it. The longer we tell ourselves 'that story,' the more ingrained it becomes in our character. Until eventually, we begin to act accordingly.
Let me start by sharing the story I’ve told myself: 'I am not smart.' I am terrible at spelling, awful at math, and I can’t remember critical names or events in history to save my life. In the past, I would freeze at the sight of any test that required my ability to remember statistics, dates, names, or facts. As a senior in high school, I never took the SAT and decided against college for fear of failing and not being good enough.
In fact, I’ve never believed I was good enough, at anything.
Somewhere along the way, someone told me I was stupid or implied it; or perhaps it was no one person but several incidents that allowed me to reason that it was true.
Now that I look back, it’s even quite possible that no one ever really sowed that seed but it was I who allowed those weeds to grow…
So how do we undo a belief we have about ourselves?
I started by being aware of my thoughts. I also started paying attention to the feelings that accompanied those thoughts and how my body reacted. When I felt like a failure, that showed up in my body as anxiety and nausea. Once I became more aware, I realized that 10 out of 10 times, my feelings were all based on fear.
And fear has a way of keeping us safe but small." Read the rest of "How to Undo the Negative Beliefs we have about Ourselves." on elephantjournal.com (link in bio!) #einstein #limitingbeliefs #fear #fuckyourfears #elephantjournal #elephantjournalquotes