Can I just be bold, go out on a limb, and say something that most people will not necessarily agree with? Community over Commpetion is draining. Trust me I am all for community rather than competition. I seriously love being able to connect with like minded creatives and bond over our love for people! There is seriously nothing better than having a creative friend who gets everything you are going through. The good and bad.
As much as I love community and hate competition, having the mindset that you have to be friends and include every photographer in your life is plain exhausting. Sometimes I find myself putting others (creatives and photographers) before my business simply because I hate using the word no. No is such a tough word for me. And the word yes has honestly gotten the best of me this year. —
There are people that you aren’t going to gel with, aren’t going to get along with, and aren’t going to be friends with, and THATS OK! You and I both need to remember that business comes first before feelings. Trust me, I am a people pleaser and hate feeling like I have let someone down, or hurt feelings, but I have had to remind myself countless times that I need to protect my business before I make friends. Sure having friends in the same business is an added bonus. —
Throughout your journey as an entrepreneur you will find out who your true friends are. They will be the ones cheering for you, encouraging you, and supporting you. Find your true friends and hold onto them dearly! Never let anyone walk all over you because you hate the word no, or don’t want to stand up for yourself. In the long run it will only hurt you and your business. Please stop feeling like you have to be in community with every single person in this world. You don’t have to be in completion with them, but you also don’t have to be in community with them either. You and I both know that there are people who we don’t get along with. I’m not saying you should be degrading or unsupportive to those people, but you should never feel like you have to be super close friends with those people either. —
What are your thoughts? I would love to have an open respectful discussion! xx