I want to know how YOU feel about hateful comments. As a fat, queer, disabled woman who is very visible, public, and frankly very hard to miss, I sift through a ton of troll comments every day. Typically, I don't use the comment filter Instagram provides. This is because I think it is important for people to see how fat people are treated. Some people seem to think internet bullying isn't a big deal and I should expect it because of what I wear and how my body looks. I am not satisfied with that. The problem is not me posting photos wearing clothes thin women are praised for wearing all the time; the problem is the hateful comments and commenters. Saying I shouldn't post if I don't want hate is like telling someone they should be homeless if they don't want a home invasion. I have never ever in my life sought out another human being to tell them they are ugly or their clothes are ugly or they look trashy, etc. I surround myself with people who have never sent hate to another person. So, I know it is not only 100% possible, but actually EASY and FREE not to leave hateful comments. The vitriol fat people face for existing is overwhelming, but I still come across people who do not believe fat people are treated poorly at all. I think it is important to see what fat people have to put up with.
I also learned to love myself, learned about feminism and intersectionality, and learned how to defend myself watching others have fights on the internet. I learned about my own oppressive views. Instagram comment fights pushed me to learn more about opposing viewpoints and helped me shape my beliefs today. I think that is also important.
However, I had the comment filter on for a few days because I needed a break from the bullshit and several people commented how nice it was to see a bunch of positivity in the comments. Replying to and reading these hateful comments absolutely does take a toll on me. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself or my body. I can be a confident and happy person and still not like it when people make fun of me or try to pull me down. But it does take a toll.
Please tell me how you feel in the comments. #bodypositive #fatbabe #plussize