You see the person being abused is a reflection of you. We're on the same continuum. We are all connected. (Listen to my podcast next week with Ryan Hassan to know of what I mean!) She walks on eggshells like you do. She doesn't want to be rejected, like you don't want to. She doesn't want to cause conflict, like you don't. She questions her reality, like you do. She has a harsh inner critic, like you do. She needs her family, friends, partners, work colleagues, bosses, parents, community, media to all teach and reflect the same message: all abuse is criminal. It's not just unacceptable, it's criminal. When the laws and society can talk about abuse in every day conversations, and there are serious consequences for all abuses - no matter how small - because abuse is abuse, and if it's not addressed it grows bigger. When people take abuse seriously and their talk matches their walk and they're willing to take time to learn more and be proactive, only then will the ones who are trapped become free. But by then there won't be many who are trapped because they won't be caught in the smoke and mirrors that society teaches us and the person who uses abuse takes advantage of. Because the one who is trapped is a mirror and reflection of society. We are your shadow. It starts with you. Get clear. Get educated beyond the stereotypes. Come to New Voices and Answers Experience in Melbourne in 11th November and if you can't make it, contact Anita and ask her to bring this event to you!