Do you have a harsh inner-critic?
Telling you: "It's wrong." "I could/should have done this better." "I should know this by now." "I should be further along." "I've already 'worked' on this, why is it coming up again!" "I have to do more more MORE!" AND...to make things worse, sometimes we tell ourselves that it's our intuition or higher self speaking to us...😬... Ouch! 😲
This is something I have to constantly work on, which has surfaced for me this week...and sometimes you don't even notice it is there until you get still...or a loving friend points it out.
There are many reasons this comes up...perfectionism, having an over-critical parent, fear of humiliation/rejection/abandonment...and even though you may have done the inner work in this issue...when ever we uplevel or strive towards a new goal that expands our beings..it will resurface at a deeper level...the whole peeling off the layers of an onion analogy.
But what ends up happening is that we go chasing and seeking approval from others - family, romantic partner, work colleagues, clients, customers, etc - often exhausting ourselves...when what we are REALLY wanting is approval of ourselves.
Once we get approval of ourselves...we make our inner child happy, which makes us happy - we can be more "us", and BEAM our beauty and gifts to the world...which of course brings results that we have oh-so-struggled been trying to achieve!
Today...I invite you to go on a BINGE!
Spend 15-minutes going through everything that is going on in your life and APPROVE of yourself in that situation...regardless of what it looks like.
Then, throughout the day...notice your inner dialogue - then approve when your inner critic barges in to take over with, "I approve of myself, even with this thought.
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